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I don't usually do this, but sometimes I just read these "Friday-Five" questions andsmallhobbit's answers and I really feel like answering them myself. So - just in order to keep being present -
1. Did you grow up with your parents together as a unit?
No. My father was an abusive alcoholic, and even though I loved him very much (and he loved me), we - mama, brother and I - stopped breathing when he left, just in case he would decide to come back. None of us remembers when exactly he left. It's a family trauma.
2. Did you reach adulthood with four living grandparents?
I wasn't even born with four living grandparents. I never knew either of my grandfathers. My paternal grandfather died when my father was 6. My maternal grandfather died, when my brother (1,5 years older than me) was -2 months. But both of my grandmothers were very much present in my childhood.
3. Is your extended family a close one or not?
No. Friends are my family, friends are very close. Blood relations - I don't know why they should matter, if we have nothing in common and don't interest each other in the least.
4. Does your family have a 'black sheep'?
I'm the black sheep. It was always my goal in life to be different. Since I can remember myself.
5. What is your first memory of a family member that is not your mother(s) or father(s)?
I don't know. But as I said, both my grandmothers were very much present in my childhood. One of my early memories is how we - myself and a few other kids, probably brother and a cousin - stand outside a big wooden gate and eat some kind of cupcakes or muffins (it was called just "cake"). This is all I remember of my paternal grandmother's "previous house", she moved soon after and that second house is the one that I spent a good part of my childhood in. The other grandmother - the one who is Grandma today - spent a lot of time in our apartment. So... I just remember a lot of her presence.
smallhobbit I don't usually do this, but sometimes I just read these "Friday-Five" questions and
smallhobbit's answers and I really feel like answering them myself. So - just in order to keep being present -1. Did you grow up with your parents together as a unit?
No. My father was an abusive alcoholic, and even though I loved him very much (and he loved me), we - mama, brother and I - stopped breathing when he left, just in case he would decide to come back. None of us remembers when exactly he left. It's a family trauma.
2. Did you reach adulthood with four living grandparents?
I wasn't even born with four living grandparents. I never knew either of my grandfathers. My paternal grandfather died when my father was 6. My maternal grandfather died, when my brother (1,5 years older than me) was -2 months. But both of my grandmothers were very much present in my childhood.
3. Is your extended family a close one or not?
No. Friends are my family, friends are very close. Blood relations - I don't know why they should matter, if we have nothing in common and don't interest each other in the least.
4. Does your family have a 'black sheep'?
I'm the black sheep. It was always my goal in life to be different. Since I can remember myself.
5. What is your first memory of a family member that is not your mother(s) or father(s)?
I don't know. But as I said, both my grandmothers were very much present in my childhood. One of my early memories is how we - myself and a few other kids, probably brother and a cousin - stand outside a big wooden gate and eat some kind of cupcakes or muffins (it was called just "cake"). This is all I remember of my paternal grandmother's "previous house", she moved soon after and that second house is the one that I spent a good part of my childhood in. The other grandmother - the one who is Grandma today - spent a lot of time in our apartment. So... I just remember a lot of her presence.
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Date: 2021-08-18 08:51 am (UTC)And having caught up with your last few posts... So glad you had a lovely visit to Germany and got to have quality time with family and friends. And good on cleansing yourself of the horrid ex, he sounds like an abusive shit, you are definitely worth a thousand times more than him!
Lol on the bath salts! Things I haul from Finland are like... cheese and bread and berries :D