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howsmyenglishAnd just because I've apparently missed this place much more than I realized, here's quite a different discussion.
I watched an episode of The L Word yesterday. I've been doing that (watching The L Word) ever since I realized I had sexual feelings for other women, but had a "no entry" sign to the door that lay beyond the realization in my head. Watching The L Word was my way of showing to myself that there's nothing unnatural or weird about two women being physical and sexual with each other. In yesterday's episode, Alice had an encounter with Papi, and what was making Alice crazy were "circles". "Papi, what are you DOING?!" - "Circles" - "Oooooh, I like circles, circles are gooooood". You can laugh at me all you want, but what I did after watching that episode was google "female masturbation circles". What I meant was "female masturbation - circles". As in, tell me all about circles with regard to female masturbation. But what Google decided I was asking was what you probably already guessed: female masturbation circles! That is, circles of women, who masturbate together. At first I was all "eeeeech...", but then I read a bit. And a bit more. And some more again. And now, frankly, I ask myself - was it really necessary to put up that warning up there about adult content? Seriously, should we not start talking about these absolutely natural things openly instead of continuing to keep them hidden and "adult" so that young girls continue to find out about orgasms and masturbation by accident if at all?
I have a friend. We had a similar discussion once - about menstruations. I said I thought one should de-taboo-ize this phenomenon, one should be perfectly comfortable with telling people - women or men - that one was unwell, for instance, because one was having menstrual pains. But my friend said, she was strictly against that. She said, a menstruation is a private matter and discussing it would be like discussing defecation. But when you have a stomach ache because you ate something bad, you don't feel ashamed to tell people. Do you? And yes, you usually don't mention the massive flatulence and diarrhea that come with the pains, because that's unappetizing and people can imagine that without telling. But just in the same way one should be able to say that one has menstrual pains without mentioning the amount of blood one is loosing and the exact blood-containing measures one is taking. Right?
And nevertheless even to ask this question I felt that I had to put up that warning. Out of respect for your feelings, your daily routines and subjects you are prepared to or expect to be surrounded with in your daily life. Did you need that warning? Would you have been annoyed to see this entry without it?
I watched an episode of The L Word yesterday. I've been doing that (watching The L Word) ever since I realized I had sexual feelings for other women, but had a "no entry" sign to the door that lay beyond the realization in my head. Watching The L Word was my way of showing to myself that there's nothing unnatural or weird about two women being physical and sexual with each other. In yesterday's episode, Alice had an encounter with Papi, and what was making Alice crazy were "circles". "Papi, what are you DOING?!" - "Circles" - "Oooooh, I like circles, circles are gooooood". You can laugh at me all you want, but what I did after watching that episode was google "female masturbation circles". What I meant was "female masturbation - circles". As in, tell me all about circles with regard to female masturbation. But what Google decided I was asking was what you probably already guessed: female masturbation circles! That is, circles of women, who masturbate together. At first I was all "eeeeech...", but then I read a bit. And a bit more. And some more again. And now, frankly, I ask myself - was it really necessary to put up that warning up there about adult content? Seriously, should we not start talking about these absolutely natural things openly instead of continuing to keep them hidden and "adult" so that young girls continue to find out about orgasms and masturbation by accident if at all?
I have a friend. We had a similar discussion once - about menstruations. I said I thought one should de-taboo-ize this phenomenon, one should be perfectly comfortable with telling people - women or men - that one was unwell, for instance, because one was having menstrual pains. But my friend said, she was strictly against that. She said, a menstruation is a private matter and discussing it would be like discussing defecation. But when you have a stomach ache because you ate something bad, you don't feel ashamed to tell people. Do you? And yes, you usually don't mention the massive flatulence and diarrhea that come with the pains, because that's unappetizing and people can imagine that without telling. But just in the same way one should be able to say that one has menstrual pains without mentioning the amount of blood one is loosing and the exact blood-containing measures one is taking. Right?
And nevertheless even to ask this question I felt that I had to put up that warning. Out of respect for your feelings, your daily routines and subjects you are prepared to or expect to be surrounded with in your daily life. Did you need that warning? Would you have been annoyed to see this entry without it?
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Date: 2024-09-09 03:46 pm (UTC)And you are right - so many things should not be taboo. I can see that one mustn't go on and on about stuff, but it shouldn't need to be something to be embarrassed about.
I am coming to an age about perimenopause and so few women talk about it. Except this total stranger, who is an election officer like me, and we get assigned to the same precinct and she and another peer openly talk about it and give me so much advice! I appreciate that so much.
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Date: 2024-09-09 04:40 pm (UTC)Oh yeah, I need someone like that, too. Still looking...
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Date: 2024-09-09 04:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-09-09 04:41 pm (UTC)as usual XD
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Date: 2024-09-15 05:06 am (UTC)Haha! I knew you would :D
Same here, or when I'm very hormonal and I want people to know that I'm not plain crazy :D
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Date: 2024-09-15 05:01 am (UTC)Yeah. Me too.
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Date: 2024-09-15 01:52 pm (UTC)I was having anxiety about writing about my age here so I will do a post on my own journal instead!
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Date: 2024-09-23 10:03 am (UTC)But also, please don't feel pressured into responding at all.
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